Extramarital Affairs – What you Need to Know….
30 Oct 2010 4 Comments
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In fairy tales, couples live happily ever after. But in the real world, it doesn’t usually work out that way. Cheating is a hot button issue in our culture. Heck, they even have a TV show based on busting people who are having extramarital affairs. If having a relationship outside of marriage, or a long term relationship is so bad, then why do so many people do it?
Maybe affairs aren’t really as bad as they’re cracked up to be. If you’ve been married for some time or with the same partner for years, you know how these things go. Relationships start out passionate and filled with romance. Then couples get married, and before you know it life becomes a routine. There’s an old saying that goes, “Familiarity breeds contempt”, and it proves to be true for lots of married couples.
Now, some people are content to simply languish away in a relationship without any passion. When this happens, married couples often end up despising each other even more than they already did. Some people, however, find that going out and finding new passion is a way to bring excitement back to their lives. Meeting someone new and being able to hook up for sex and companionship often makes these folks feel alive for the first time in years.
Yes, extramarital affairs can lead to a slippery slope, but just about anything that brings pleasure in this life has associated risks. Some people even find that the risks – the idea of being caught – adds intrigue and danger to the affair. This kind of added excitement can be just the ticket to get out of the boring old routine and begin to feel some excitement again.
If you’re planning on having extramarital affairs, you have to take the approach to dating that makes sense for your situation. If you’re seeking physical companionship because the sex just isn’t happening at home, that’s fine, just make sure that you know where to draw the line. If you still love your spouse, but need the physical intimacy that they can’t, or won’t provide, but don’t want to lose the relationship, then you have to make sure that you think your actions through before you start going out and looking for someone to hook up with.
The culture in the United States is dead set against affairs, on a very superficial level. Everyone likes to wag their finger in disapproval, but the statistics don’t lie. People are having affairs, for one reason or another, every day. When your needs aren’t being met at home, you have two choices – deal with it and suffer in silence, or find a way to get those needs met.
If your spouse isn’t willing to meet those needs, be they affection, companionship, or sex, then you may decide that having an extramarital affair is the best solution. Just make sure that you don’t have unreal expectations about your hook ups outside of the home, and don’t cross any boundaries that you will regret down the road.
Author Doreen Gray is an advice writer and editor.You can find more about having an extramarital affair at Married Dating Guide
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